“Everything You Need You Have”

Amidst the chaos of a trans-Pacific move, being pregnant while corralling three crazy, err, darling children, and then bringing that sweet, 4th baby into the world, its nearly a miracle I’ve found time to read anything, let alone a book.

I’m not really one for self-help books. I mean, I’m all ready fabulous.

Nah. But really. I’m pretty happy and comfortable in my own skin. I’m not searching for “more.” I could use some help in time-management and maybe even better managing and regulating my emotions, but I don’t need much in terms of finding happiness; I’m profoundly happy in this crazy/beautiful life.

But Gerad Kite does a great job of taking individuals step by step on an easy-to-read journey in finding happiness in the “now” and being comfortable in one’s own skin in his book “Everything You Need You Have.”

He hits the nail on the head when discussing how many people are holding out for the “later” for when things will be better and they will happier. When they get married, when they get promoted, when they go on vacation, etc. And he takes the reader through on ways to find self-love and fulfillment in the now. 

If you’re looking for an easy read and little self love, this is for sure the book for you! 

***Full Disclaimer:  I received this book from Blogging for Books for this review. All thoughts and opinions are mine.

“Nursies When the Sun Shines”: The Night weaning of Sweet M.

I night weaned Sweet M at the end of March. 

I was super torn over it, but I knew that for the sake of our nursing relationship (and my sanity), it was much needed.

With Miss H, I was young and dumb and didn’t know better and night weaned her at 7 months because I was under the impression that I was “supposed” to. My heart still hurts a little over that.

I night weaned Mr. B at a little over 2.5 right before I went on a trip sans kids (they were with their papa, I still don’t think I could leave them for more than just one night with anyone other than their papa). He was only nursing 1-2x a night, and it wasn’t a huge deal. 

I assumed I would do something similar with Sweet M.

But then we got pregnant with Jelly Bean and nursing through this pregnancy has been a wee bit more challenging than breastfeeding Miss H through my pregnancy with Mr. B was. 

First, my milk supply plummeted. Drastically.

And then nursing got painful. 

And he wanted to nurse more frequently due to the lack of milk, but it wasn’t bringing up my supply. So cue the supplementing of his breastfeeding with donor breast milk. 

And then night nursing him got to be downright cringe-worthy. The aversion was strong and the exhaustion deep in my bones. Like his sister, he wanted to nurse every 45 mins at night. 

I knew something had to give if I wanted to save our breastfeeding relationship. 

And thus, it was time to night wean.

I wanted it to be as gentle and non-traumatic as possible for him. I knew he wouldn’t be thrilled either way, but I wanted him to still feel safe and loved throughout the night. 

A friend suggest the book “Nursies When the Sun Shines” and I immediately Amazon Primed it and began reading it voraciously to him, unsure of how much he fully understood. 

Then after a few days I told him his nursies were going night night with the sun, and when he woke up at night I offered him his pacifier (and water, because I didn’t want him to be genuinely thirsty or hungry and he without). He cried hard that first wake up.

He was so mad at me.

I wanted to nurse him so we could all go back to sleep. But I also knew I had hit that point where it was no longer a mutually beneficial relationship night nursing him; and though in the moment it might be easier, he was also learning some pretty important body respect and boundaries, even if he was too young to fully grasp it. I had set the hard limit for my body, and I had to follow through. 

He eventually cuddled into me and fell asleep as I assured him he’d “nursie when the sun shines.”

When he awoke again he fussed for a moment, and I reminded him it was night nights, and he fell back asleep. 

Y’all, it was that easy. I know it’s different for all kids (I’ve got three vastly difffeent babes myself), but not only was he fairly easily night weaned after one day, he basically started sleeping through the night after that.

What the what what!?

(Don’t be jealous. It took Miss H 6 years to sleep through the night. I paid my dues.)

I really cannot recommend the book “Nursies When the Night Shines” enough for anyone looking for a gentle way to ease into night weaning. The illustrations are beautiful, and I love that it’s a momma and papa co-sleeping and snuggling through the night with their babe. It was very in-line with how we personally do sleep around here, so it was a great fit.

I can’t say at what age is best for any child to night wean. It’s such a personal experience between momma and baby and where they are in those moments. Not only does it vary from family to family, but from child to child and what their particular needs are. 

I feel super confident that Sweet M and I were ready to end night nursing and that it helped to save our daytime nursing relationship. 

Girl in Pieces: Book Review

I just finished reading “Girl in Pieces” by Kathleen Galsgow, a New York Times bestseller.

It was so well-written, that even though it wasn’t my sort of storyline, I couldn’t put it down. Charlie Davis, the protagonist, is a very angsty 17 year old who has gone through more tragedy and heartbreak in her short life than many will ever experience.

Glasgow, an Arizona native,¬†does a phenomenal job of making you empathize with Charlie, even if she’s a sort of character that you cannot fully relate to. You really feel for her and all she’s endured and what she faces.

It’s a really great young adult novel and I hope to see more work by Glasgow in the future!

 

 

***Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from Blogging For Books in exchange for this review. All the thoughts and opinions are fully mine.

Read It Wednesday: Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls

My older sister gifted Miss H the book “Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls” and it instantly became a favorite around here.

It is comprised of 100 different women from around the globe and throughout history who were strong, courageous, and changed the world in one way or another. Their stories are a brief one page each, accompanied by a beautiful portrait created by female artists. 

Miss H loves hearing about these women who did things people never expected. Women who delved into politics, or who changed the ideas of ballet. Women who lead countries, and others who found themselves stuck in a boy’s body and were eventually able to be their true selves.

Actually, Mr. B loves this book and all its stories, too. It’d be my only complaint of the whole book. Instead of “for” rebel girls it should be titled “of” because there are enough (slightly closed minded) people who might be turned off and not read it if they don’t identify as female.


And not only should girls know about these amazing women, but boys should too. So that they grow up with a normal idea and the knowledge that females are just as mighty and powerful as males. And they know about just as many amazing females in history as they do males.

I cannot recommend this book enough. It’s one you want to buy so you have it in your permanent library. And then you want to buy a few more to give to everyone you know. 

I guarantee you’ll be as captivated by this book as we are!