I think the most challenging aspect of having four babes is the lack of 1:1.
I also think it’s one of the greatest gifts; there is no possibility of them becoming too self-centered because they simply know the world doesn’t revolve around them.
They know that needs and wants aren’t the same thing, and sometimes they may want xyz but someone else has a legitimate need that must be met first. It’s a fine line, of course, of cultivating a loving, empathetic, and selfless little heart as opposed to being jealous and hostile; but the majority of the time they blow me away with how loving and mature and selfless they truly are.
I love getting time with them individually, whether it’s baking muffins or reading a story or a quick snuggle while the others are at play. And sometimes it’s more; movies or dinners or grocery shopping.
I’ve learned with time that 1:1 doesn’t have to be big. It can be building duplos or helping to wash their hair or even just catching their eye while they’re doing something, so that they know that I truly see them.
I’ve often heard people say “I could never have x amount of kids because I could never give them each the attention they deserve.” I get that fear. I do. But let me tell you, you can give them enough attention, and at the same time you’ll never give them enough, even if its just one kiddo. It ebbs and flows and in some seasons you will be swinging high and in others you’ll miss the mark.
Fortunately, it all makes for beautiful life lessons and opportunities to teach the imperfectness of humanity.
I am so thankful for each one of them, and all the little moments that make us connected.
They are precious.
They are loved.
They are so deeply wanted.
Everything else will fall into place.